First dates can be absolutely wonderful and leave you feeling butterflies in your stomach excited for date number two, or they can totally fail, leaving you disgusted or bummed out. Going on a first date is both exciting and a little nerve wracking especially if you want to make sure it turns out to be an enjoyable experience. Both the partners are conscious about how they carry themselves and how best to connect and if they really hit it off then how best to secure a second date.There are a lot of things that can go wrong with a first date and it can be hard to know whether or not we are doing the right thing. There are definitely some things people do on dates that send a red flag.
One wants to avoid notable turn-offs like having bad breath or holding up the other person for long. Yet, there are other things which may slip past women on their first date which may end up making a man go round the twist.
One should avoid to do the following things and are advised to make an attractive first impression and keeping alive the likelihood of seeing each other again. A woman may not notice it at all, but the date would be an absolute disaster for men who would just want it to finish then.
#1. Being overly controlling
Normally a relationship thrives when both the parties are aware of each other’s needs and requirements and stick to their own roles. If anyone will try and dominate the other person and influence the decision-making without taking the other into confidence will obviously drive the other person crazy.
#2. Talking About Marriage
For most men, you don’t have to be talking about marrying them, but just hearing you talk about marriage in general tends to be a bit of a turn off. Because some men find women who talk about marriage on the very first date a little obsessive and a lot of men, especially men who are dating around, tend to be a little afraid of commitment. So ladies, if you have a first date planned and you think that you might want to see him again, then it would probably be a good idea to avoid the topic of marriage.
#3. Not registering his compliments
It is insulting to make that an excuse for not returning a compliment. A simple thank you may suffice otherwise you may appear rude and standoffish. It will also make the guy feel uncomfortable since he might notice your cold shouldering as you not being attracted to him at all.
#5. Being On Your Phone
This is probably one of the biggest mistakes men have when they are going to meet a women for the first time. It is a no-brainer that you both want some quality face to face time but if you are dedicating that time to your small screen as well makes you look disinterested. In this day and age although we can not evade the use of electronics at least reduce it while you are on a date with your partner.
Being on your phone if there is an emergency is one thing, but if you are texting or on Facebook all night long, then odds are you will not be having a second date.
#6. Finding faults in everything
Nothing is more displeasing than going out with a person who is constantly finding faults in every small thing they come across. Everybody will like to keep their distance from such a person for the sheer embarrassment it causes them.
Complaining is not in the least bit attractive and some women seem to go overboard with it, when really if they would just stop seeing the negative in everything and shut their mouths for a moment then they might be able to actually have a little fun for once. It is ok if you strive for perfection, but that doesn’t mean to hold everything according to your high standards.
#7. Trying To Sound Cute
Here we are talkin about the mock baby voices which involve a lot of cute sounding shrill sounds which is just so much attractive for a man.
As nothing drives a man more crazy than when a woman talks to him using her cutesy little baby voice. It is OK to try to sound like a baby when you are talking to a baby, but if you are on a first date it is time to put on your big girl pants and talk like an adult. Sure, you might think that it sounds cute, but trust me when I say that all it does is drive him crazy and if he cannot stand the sound of your voice then he probably won’t be calling you back for another date. In fact, when asked, men said that they are more attracted to women when they have a more mature sounding voice as to when they have high-pitched cute little voices because those are just annoying. So save the baby talk for actual babies and just try to talk in your normal voice on your date because there is nothing cute about it.
#8. Not making effort to keep the conversation going and feeling shy
For the first time you both are meeting each other face to face, and there is the absolute level of insecurity about how you talk and what you will say. A guy will understand that you are shy but if all his attempts to make you feel comfortable with him and open up are going in vain, they will surrender.However, this doesn’t mean not to make an effort to communicate with your partner and just build walls around your person.
To avoid the awkward silence is by jotting down various topics you could talk about as soon as you see that conversation is falling out.
#9. Expecting Him To Pay
This is probably one of those things that should be sorted out before the date, but you should still never go onto a date and expect the guy to pay for everything because for the men who do not believe in paying for everything, it drives them crazy, and they cannot stand it. Instead, always bring your own money with you just in case and be polite, ask him if he would like you to contribute to the bill, or at the very least offer to leave the tip.
Some men are not particularly agreeing to the idea of affording all the expenses while you have some good time together. It is no longer a question about male chauvinism and such concepts are fast becoming old fashioned. Especially it is your first date and you are expected to pitch in.
#11. Keep discussing about your work details.
You both have never met each other before and are meeting face to face for the first time. We are pretty sure you must have other exciting things to talk about besides your nine to five grueling routine.
Not only have they said that it is boring, but it is also annoying because they want to take this time to get to know your personality and if all that you can talk about is a bunch of work gossip, then they are not interested. When it comes to talking about work, it is okay to tell them what you do on the first date, but you really should not go any farther than that with this subject and you should always give the man a chance to talk as well.
#12. Talking About Having Kids
Having kids is a big deal and it really is something that should only be discussed among couples that have been together for some time and it is something that can scare a lot of men away, especially if they are only dating. So bringing up the fact that you want to have kids while on the first date is a big mistake that can lead to you scaring him off before even getting the chance to know him.