First things first, let me just clear out that I don’t hold any degree of relationship tips, so whatever I write is highly based on the things that I see happening around me.
Differences in a character are what defines our identity, do you not agree? Yes, we are all flawed but that doesn’t mean we should stupidly jump into a trap knowingly thinking that we can control the situation. And it’s very easy to see what is bad for you unless you are braindead, you see, we humans are lonely creatures, so we just accept whatever is thrown at us, even if we know it’s a red alert.
Plainly, if a man doesn’t wanna marry you or value you to be his future wife, you’ll just know it from his behavior, it’s not rocket science! He might just want your presence and just to have fun, he won’t miss you but he’ll always invite you to hang out. But a man who wants you forever won’t mind listening to all your crappy stories even on a weekday. Got my point?
And when it comes to finding a man who will truly love you and marry you, trust me ladies and also the gentlemen, just let it take its own turn.
To show you the basic difference in the men who are marriage material and who are not, here are some points that might help you get some closure.
1. Keep in mind of the places he takes you out.
Men who are temporary will love to party with you at pubs or clubs, but the serious men will always take you to some peaceful places, where you both can share some beautiful moments and grow closer to each other.
2. Does he trust you enough for you to have enough your own space?
Men who know your potential and love you truly will wanna see you shine and be stronger leaving you to work on your own personal beliefs and thoughts. But the wrong man will always somehow try to make you feel inferior by weakening down your willpower.
3. Is he committed by nature and with his own life?
Trust me it is very hard to find a husband in which men are struggling with their own identity. The men who have a sense of their own place in the world or in the family is the one who will be true to you.
4. Talking about future plans together.
When a man talks about his future including you in it, that’s a man who can walk down the aisle with you. Other than that, others will just flinch and scare away when you start talking about future because men hate talking about the future if it’s not with the person they truly love.
5. Does he like spending time with you and your friends?
If a man doesn’t approve of your friends and doesn’t like to hang out with them, he is selfish and that’s not a marriage material. The man who would marry you will always want to meet your friends and try to get to know you more within your circle.
6. Does he ever ask you about your goals and interest?
Any men who are interested to know what your motives in life are and to try and converse you about your future goals are the ones that will stick around. But men who never asks about it and rather just hang out with you, all they want is enjoyment.
7. Is he all about the pleasure?
A decent man who wants to marry you will talk to you, spend time with you, do all things together and get intimacy only with mutual willingness are the right men. But if a guy only wants you in his bed, that’s a red alert!
8. Is he willing to meet your parents?
When you invite him to meet your parents, the wrong men will get panicked and try to make an excuse. But a true gentleman will always accept the chance to meet your folks in order to seek the validation of marrying you and keeping you happy.
9. Does he talk about his true inner feelings?
When a guy shares you his darkest secrets or anything about his life, it means he trusts you, even if he doesn’t know know why he’s doing it, it means he is a marriage material. But when a guy is very plain and just won’t tell you anything it means he is not the person you’d want to end up with.
10. Does he take care of you?
The one who will marry you will love you at your brightest times as well as your darkest moments and take care of you when you are ill. The men who just like you will leave the moment you become sappy about anything. They’ll just think you’re a negative influence.
Now, that you guys have understood a little bit about what to see in a man when you go into a relationship and know if he is the right man to marry, I think it’s time we jump into the next category. That is, after finding the man you wanna marry, there are certain things you should know about him that explains a lot about his manners and characters. So, here are some important points that might make the job easier.
11. What does he love about you?
Knowing what a man desires is already a hard thing to understand but it is very crucial that you should know what he loves/likes about you. Because that will give you clarity about what you mean to him. There are not a lot of men who will like all your flaws and strengths.
12. It’s important that you know his interest and wishlist.
Its ideal that a woman should be aware of what her man likes. It’s not only one-sided that only a man should know about what a girl wants. Pampering your man on his special day and other occasions will make him feel wanted and loved. So, figure out what he likes, in terms of foods, travel destinations, etc.
13. What is his view on love, marriage, and s*x?
What if he becomes boring after marriage and doesn’t want any intimacy? For a couple, it is important to have a balanced life of all these three categories. The spark should continue to have a healthy married life. Just because you guys are legally husband and wife it doesn’t mean the excitement and fun should end.
14. Figure out his hidden talents.
Everyone has a talent that they don’t show to most people. Try to figure out what he is and praise him, compliment him. He will surely be very grateful and think that you actually care for his hidden sides too.
15. The family plan that he has in his mind.
Knowing how many kids he wants is crucial, what if he doesn’t want any kid at all? So, talk to him and find out what plans he has for the future family. Because sometimes it might not be mutual, and that can be a problem.
16. You have every right to know about his childhood.
Knowing the little information about his childhood days is a must because that’s how you can get to the roots of his instincts and the way he was brought up. You never know if he may want to bring up his own child in the same manner.
17. Is he a messy person?
I think for every woman who is a neat freak they need to know this more than anything else. Well, if he is a man who eats in the bedroom and dresses up in the toilet, I don’t think that’s something easy to change or deal with.
18. Which place is his favorite travel destination?
Surprise him with a ticket for two to his favorite place, he’ll surely be smiling wide as hell! You being with him anywhere that makes him happy will be a good memory to cherish forever.
19. Know how he handles his temper!
I personally can’t handle hot-headed people, as I’m a cool minded person. If he fusses and curses a lot about small things, it’s not a good trade, trust me! Even if he loves you, spending a lifetime with a short-tempered person is tiresome.
20. Dream goals of his.
Knowing what the man wants for his career life is important before you start a life with him. You know money is not the first thing to think about but finance and the economy is a necessity that we can’t afford to ignore.
I hope that might help you in figuring out the odds. All I know is that what I see is what I believe. What I hear might contradict my thoughts and make me judge men negatively in general, which are mistakes that almost everyone makes. Even if you are still single and 30, count your blessings that you didn’t end up with a dumbhead.