In today’s life dating someone has changed a lot from the way how it used to be in the past. In the past it was easier! Today it became much harder and more problematic.
1. Sex wasn’t often on the table – at least not on the first date.
One-night stands become popular in today;s life because in the past it was never mentiond . That isn’t to say that they never happened
Sure, we may sleep with the same person for a few months before we switch, and call it dating, but the truth is that we date to have sex. Much of the time we skip the whole dating thing and go straight for the goal. If nothing else, we are a pretty efficient generation.
2. Most people were dating because they wanted relationships.
These days you never really know. Because most of our relationships start with sex before they turn into something substantial, it can be rather difficult figuring out where exactly that line between the two is located.
3. The Facebook relationship status.
To make things worse, being the first to update your FB status is like being the first to say “I love you.” It’s a step down, but it’s comparable. We place so much importance on the most arbitrary of things. Life is becoming more and more addicted by technology.
4. Not knowing if the other person is completely faithful.
As not knowing whether or not you’re in a relationship can drag on for months, uncertainty of whether or not you should be dating creeps up. If you’re not in a relationship then you are free to date and probably should be dating.
5. Not knowing if the person is clean.
It’s a problem. With more partners comes more chances of catching something. Sure, we may use condoms more often and have found cures for some forms of STDs, but people still catch them. The worst part is that while you used to be able to tell the kind of person who was likely to have an STD – people who lived certain sexually-open lifestyles — when these days it could really be anybody. We all live sexually-open lifestyles – to a much larger extent than most people before us.
6. Arbitrary rules that people are meant to follow.
With every new device and messaging service comes a new rule as to how long to wait before initiating post-date contact. But there’s more. There are rules on how much you can and can’t text. How often you should or shouldn’t see each other.
7. There was once a certain date-etiquette.
You would buy flowers or chocolates. You would go to dinner and see a movie, maybe just go for a walk. At the end of the night, you would kiss the girl on the cheek and go your separate ways. Mission accomplished – much simpler times. Nowadays there are little to no guidelines on going out on a date. I’d think that women still enjoy flowers, but then again I don’t remember the last time I saw anyone bring flowers to a date.
8. There’s more for us to balance.
Life was simpler before – there was less to do, less to balance. There were fewer options, possibilities and choices to make. In modern countries, we have countless options presented to us every single day.